What can you do now to help your family if you die?
Sep 02, 2020
There are six things every responsible adult should do to prepare for their death
- Write a will. Appoint someone to handle your funeral arrangements in your will. In most cases, this is the executor.
- Put your original documents in a safe place where they can be found.
- Help your family find a way through “grief brain”. When you die, there is a gaping hole. Your family will miss you and will be functioning at sub-optimal levels – we call this “grief brain”. Contact a funeral home and plan your own funeral now so that your family does not have to make complicated, expensive decisions while in this condition.
- Sit down with your family and discuss your wishes. It is hard to discuss one's mortality but having the conversation before you die is very important. If you think this is difficult, think about your family having to sit down with a funeral director and have a conversation with them. The most important point to discuss is how you want the disposition of your body handled; fights over the disposition of remains can take a long time to resolve.
- Start Saving for your funeral now. A quick review of the GoFundMe website shows many panicked families looking to raise funds to cover funeral expenses. If you have a savings account that can be used- great. However, if you are not good with handling money, consider paying the funeral home monthly for your planning. For about $50.00/month you can leave your family with a guaranteed plan.
- Remember that death is natural. We live in a society that does not like to talk about death. It is considered morbid or disturbing. Small steps now will make everything more manageable in the end. I have met with many stolid families where loved ones are making decisions based upon what their loved ones wanted. These families could make decisions without second-guessing themselves and wondering if they were doing the right thing.
Completing the above would put you far and away beyond the preparation levels of most families. The only thing left to do would be to write your own obituary– They are always the best ones in the Gazette! If you choose to write your personal obituary, contact our office to obtain the obituary outline to help guide you. Remember - We are here to help.